I was a prisoner of war for most of a century. Stolen by a foreign government when I was lost in combat and presumed dead. I had my memories wiped, lost my entire sense of identity. When I started to remember my friends, my family, they told me they were dead and they wiped me again. I had my arm amputated and replaced by a weapon. I was experimented on and kept in a cryogenically frozen state when I wasn't in use. They put implants in my brain that let them control my thoughts and actions. And because of that, I did some terrible things. I hurt people. Killed others. Changed the results of democratic elections. Threw some foreign governments into a state of chaos and disarray. I did kill Hitler, which was cool. But - anyway. I was abused and brainwashed. That was my reality for 3 times as long as my life before. And about 20 times as long as my life since.
But I don't do that anymore. Because that's not who I want to be. And I'm not saying that I'm not -- still a lot of those things. That I'm not a murderer. Or that I'm a good man now. I'm never going to be who I was, or would have been. But you're not under the control of whoever took you anymore. You have a choice here. Fighting your programming isn't easy, but it's important. There is no excuse not to do it. You don't have to change overnight, but your behavior has to. You can't use your trauma to justify causing someone else's.