Yeah, I never quite bought how she married him in the end, if the bullying really was quite as extensive as it was made out to be. Because I would have stayed so far away from him, if I were her, and I can't think of anything that would have removed him from the hate list either. I can sort of see how the war would rush along their marriage, if they had already been in any kind of place where marriage was an option... and I can't remember ever seeing something like that in canon! Which is why I don't ship Lily/James. (Canon is weeeird!!!!)