Re: Fenrir/Remus
It can be both. I liken it to a man having a bad temper. You can either give in to it and lash out at anyone around you. Or, you can learn coping mechanisms that allow you to remain in control. The older you are when you're bitten, though, I think the harder time you have accepting it as part of you. And, then, the longer you live with it, the more you can accept it.
It's a plan, then. We can commandeer one of the courtyards as our practice ground.