Mia
Well maybe, if James agrees that is, it could be at his place instead of yours so there will be no grounding. Well unless your mother is totally dense and thinks that we don't drink at parties, I mean, hello! But it couldn't hurt to try. Also it's not you backing down it's showing that you don't want a war of the parties and you want to be the bigger person, the mature person, and trying to make peace.