Re: PRIVATE
You're right. That's an extremely personal question to ask. I can only assume that there's a very specific reason for it.
I will preface this by saying that every person is different, so what might sound good to you might not necessarily be okay with other people involved.
For us... there were some teething troubles. Mostly on my part. I felt sure that it wouldn't work. It took a lot of time and patience, and most importantly, love to get to where we are now.