No, sweetie, it wasn't rude. I can't even IMAGINE how badly this must freak ALL of you out at first.
And I apologize if it sounded like I was trivializing what you and your friends had to go through.
But yeah... people that aren't real in one reality are real in the next, and so forth. It can be hard, especially if you don't have anyone here to go through it with. If it helps at all, you can come to me any time.