Roger nearly laughed at Harry's expression at the mention of ravishment and decided that soon, very soon, he was going to have to take him out and get him laid. Nothing fixed the whole pre-first time with a man jitters like actually going and having your first time with a man.
He waved Harry's apology aside with a laugh. "Don't even worry about it. It's their loss and they are trying to fix the problem. The lack of contact probably wasn't helped by the fact that mum ran off to live in rural Oxfordshire."
He nodded sagely and patted Harry on the back. "Irish wakes are the best way to go, lad. Celebrate the person's life, don't cry about their death."