Connor/Poe
I think, when you care about someone who needs to change, there's a fine line to walk between affirming their need to change and supporting their path and enabling them to stay the same. Good people are always willing to compromise first and compromise more, and sometimes caring means not being nice, or being stubborn or doing things the person you care about might not understand.
But I think that's better than trying to love a person who does bad things unconditionally. Because that takes away someone's need or desire to alter themselves in meaningful ways. That's what I've been dealing with lately, both in policing my own actions and in relation to other people who've complicated relationships with Kylo Ren.