[Vivi/Aspel.] My desire for privacy and protect the one I care about Yes, I suppose it is. As for being tactful and what not, it would perhaps alleviate some of the pressure from my situation, but what good would it do to open communication? Do you truly feel as though doing what you suggest would cause people to be more frank or voice objections? Were it that easy, I'd have remained the way I was before I married
Perhaps so, but speaking from my own experience with your appreciation, it can come across as perfunctory and as though you are attempting to even out a debt of kindness. At least, for me, a simple thank you is more than enough to suffice to show that you appreciate whatever deed was done.