Alex Acts of Service and Quality Time (tie): I feel like this just… kind of perfectly encapsulates both Alex and Seth’s struggles and WHY and HOW they work so well when they’re on it. –dying- Alex, like a lot of her family, has some deep rooted trust issues and reliability is just KEY to her. When you make a commitment, that’s a promise and that’s something that you show up for. Always. It’s not a healthy relationship if you have to face things alone. Alex needs someone who will support her in her success and she is all about reciprocating that. But even without scheduled events or specific moments, Alex just loves spending time with those she cares about. It can be about anything or nothing; it can be a spontaneous adventure, a standing smoothie date, or just hanging out at home, but being able to just connect and check in with people she loves is really important to Alex. (Score: 8)
Words of Affirmation: LOLOL. Have you ever seen Alex talk with her siblings? She is all about using words to express love and affection. Whether it actually needs to be said or not, she thinks that words of affirmation are a great way to spread positivity and love; they’re also really great reminders of where someone’s opinion stands. Words said with love are probably the quickest way to soothe Alex’s soul, and they’re a straight shot to her ego, which, let’s be clear, governs a lot about her behavior. (Score: 6)
Physical Touch: Alex has very few boundaries when it comes to personal space and she is very free about being physically affectionate; she will hug EVERYONE, let’s skip handshakes altogether. But even though she’s very responsive when it comes to physical touch, it’s not necessarily something that she requires in a relationship. If someone isn’t super comfortable with PDA, she’s okay with that. With Alex, though, small gestures can be very significant. A kiss on the cheek, a brush of the hand, a pat on the shoulder… those are things that she notices and appreciates. (Score: 5)
Receiving Gifts: Alex loves the surprise of receiving something new. She finds it touching that someone thought about her and she appreciates the cost, whether it’s monetary or emotional. When she receives a gift, it’s exciting and sweet. Alex just… doesn’t have a lot of faith in permanence. If she doesn’t attach too much meaning to something, if she loses it or it’s taken away from her, it won’t hurt as much. She places a lot of value in the ACT of giving, but less so on the object. If she thinks that she’s going to love something too much, it kind of hurts. And she’s not always great at distinguishing when something is given purely for her benefit and not just for the benefit of the giver; this is part of why when Seth built them a house and told her she could do whatever she wanted with it, she was like THIS IS SUCH A COOL THING YOU DID FOR YOU :D and when Jesse wants to spend a couple of hours singing musicals in her living room, she’s like yes, let's hang out in MY living room. :3 (Score: 3)