DANIELLE | EMILIA
With more open adoptions, you can meet the couples and ask them questions. They would be vetted by the court system/adoption agency prior to a formal adoption that would include background checks and home visits. There is no guarantee that they won't change once they have the child. Parenthood - especially in adoptions - can sometimes be stressful, especially if they feel they aren't bonding with the child. The only way to reverse a placement and restore your parental rights is if the adoptive family agrees to it, and even then, a lot of the time courts can be very stringent and will not grant the reversal even though it is possible.
All this said with warning that even if you did an open adoption, when the couple officially adopts the child and you give up legal rights, they can still eventually work towards it being a fully closed adoption. If you had an open agreement in place, it's not technically legal to do that, but I see it happen all the time. Once the child is adopted, there's nothing stopping the couple from picking up and moving out of state or out of country.
I don't mean to demonize adoption in any way because I think it's a really good option. I just don't want to paint it as rainbows and sunshine for the position you would be in. It's much better when birth mothers have a hand in choosing the family, and it makes for an easier transition. WIthout that, the kids often end up in the foster care system like I did, and that's...not fun.