SO I definitely am late to the party and just read all of this, but I agree with Niall. I think that there's a lot to think about here for both of you. Deciding what you want, ultimately, and deciding if those two views match up or if they're incompatible.
I have to ask though...do you know if she's planning to find a family to adopt? Or if she just wants to try placement in the system? Because if it's the latter and she does want to give up the baby, I can help her find a family. I just...I don't recommend placing in the foster system. Having been one of those kids myself, I just don't. Babies are usually easier to find permanent homes for, by far, but not in every case.