I can understand that, in a way. What Tobias and Tris have is undoubtedly different, but I still understand it and I feel what he feels for her even if I know what I feel for Bea is the same and dissimilar all at once. Though, to be honest, I'm kind of glad that I'm missing out on some of what Tris and Tobias have because it's not something I want here. I don't envy that world or their lives.