okay so today my boyfriend hung out with his friend gina. background is: a) my boyfriend is mostly friends with girls and that's okay, i know it's just his personality b) gina seems to be a new face, he's been friends with her for a while but started talking to her regularly all of a sudden and today was the second time he's hung out with her in about a week
anyway, they went out for lunch and then walked to these public baths, where in a spur of the moment decision they both stripped to their underwear and had a swim. this is the part i'm not comfortable with. first of all, i've been nagging my boyfriend to come to the beach with me for some weeks now but he's never been very keen, so it seems unusual that he'd be so eager to suddenly go swimming with her.
also, last time he was with her they played this game where you blindfold your friend, take them to someone's front doorstep, ring the doorbell and then they may take 3 steps to hide before someone comes to the door. it doesn't really sound like something he'd do, so basically they have a lot of spur of the moment, exciting fun when they're together. so i'm feeling a little bit insecure and jealous, eg fun gina v. boring me
would you be worried? it just seems kind of suspicious to me, and finding out they swam together in their underwear was basically what made me think twice.
i guess i'm looking for an outside perspective; i think it's shady, he thinks i should trust him and that it's not shady at all - what do you think? am i being irrational?
edit: we talked about it, i said i was uncomfortable, he said he didn't want me to be uncomfortable but also didn't want me to stop him from having fun, i said i didn't want to stop him from having fun i just wanted him to have appropriate fun, he said he wouldn't do anything like it in the future, i suggested that he text me if he is ever in a similar situation again and see if i am cool with it before he goes ahead, he said yes, etc. i think my boyfriend is just incredibly simple minded and perceives everything innocently. i don't think he even realised that someone might see it as inappropriate. we also agreed that i'd probably be more comfortable if i met gina at some point in the future (as someone suggested in comments) so all is well! thanks for your help xo