Dante/Violet
I wouldn't resent you for a choice I made of my own free will. The only way I would resent you would be if you tried to take me away from the things I told you I want for the future, or otherwise went back on your word in some major way.
The people who are going to say terrible things about the baby will say them regardless of if I marry you or not. Depending on my mood, I'll either ignore them, or point out all the flaws in their logic. It's better to make people like that look stupid than it is to give them the emotional response they want.
I have no doubt that he does, but even the most brilliant people in the world can have rare lapses in judgement.