Maryanne
This has nothing to do with trying to "snag a man" and everything to do with having 40lbs of fish to cook up.
As for the rest of it? I'm really not sure how any of this is your fucking business. Ernest is a grown man that has told me no on occasion and I have respected that. Abi doesn't remember any of their relationship and if she did, I would get out of the way. Since the people that are actually involved in all of this have no problem with it, I'm really not sure why you do. But I am not going to justify my actions to someone who hasn't actually been involved in my life in a very long time.