Private to James/Gracie
It's not stupid. You aren't him. You deserve to be able to figure things out again. We can offer you suggestions based on what he liked but you can decide. Or we can help you decide. Or you can tell us to stop. Whatever you need or want.
You're you. Whoever that is now. We'll figure it out.
I can do that. I'll try to be quiet and I promise not to hug you.