Then you've either only dealt with Gryffindors or Hufflepuff males, or the lower end spectrum of the Slytherin males. And you most definitely haven't had the pleasure of meeting me, but we'll rectify that soon enough.
It can, I suppose, though I find a good, balanced combination of attraction and stimuli is preferential.
Arrogance is not a crime, despite what many others might think. Often times, simply being confident and intelligent enough to know your own worth, is often confused as arrogance. And what's wrong with a strong will? I deplore weakness, personally.
I have, I was thinking something more gritty. a biker, maybe.