DM
I'm sorry. I decided to start this with that, in case you just decided to delete this without reading the rest. Don't think I would/will blame you if you did/do. After taking a few days to really think about this—and discuss it with reasonable people who were not me—I have come to conclusion that I haven't been fair to you. I've let me my own parental hangups color my perceptions of you, without getting to know you as a person. But just you. I don't want to discuss him. I want to know about your life, and the things you've done with it and what brought you here. As I've been reminded lately, we can't change the people bound to us by blood, but we can choose our family. I'm willing to give it a shot if you are. Besides, there's a really adorable niece you should meet, if nothing else.