"No, I don't think that it's when you're born, but when you are a child what your parents do makes you who you are. Whether we like it or not, they have a lot more to say about the type of person we will turned out to be than we'd like to think," she said. "If you form a solid core of values, then I think that the use of an Unforgivable might be an exception, not enough to taint you forever. In the end, we fight to protect those good people, and not to change the bad ones."
The discussion about souls didn't really interest her as much as the rest. Speaking with Remus gave her a headache with all of his whys and maybes. It wasn't that she wasn't trying, only that she didn't get his obsession with all of that, but putting little pieces of conversations over the weeks was giving her a better view.
"First, come and sit here," she said, patting the mattress near her. "I promise not to touch you, kiss you, make any undue advances," she added with a smile. "It's just easier to see you. I might not be dying, but it gets tiring." She didn't specify what, because there were moments when everything seems to hurt and some when she was fine. From past experience, it was usually a sign that she'd need Stephen soon.
"If it makes you feel better, I get that urge to, the banging my head against the wall feeling, but let's see if I can explain a few things," she started. "You keep mentioning how I didn't know you, or how I couldn't understand your true self, so why don't we start with that. I know who you are, because I've seen the way you act. True, you were a teenager, but the fact that I didn't know that you were a werewolf doesn't mean anything, it doesn't change who you are. It certainly has repercussions on how you choose to live, but not on who you are. You could have become a monster or you could have become a kind, loving person. The latter is what you did at twenty. It's what you're doing now. It's what that other Remus seemed to do. That has been a constant no matter your age; that you are. Whether you did it because you didn't want people to know or to be accepted, or for whatever reason, it doesn't change the fact that you chose to be a good person as oppose to turning into someone like Greyback. Do I presume to know all of your motivations? Of course not, but that doesn't mean than I don't know who you are, who you choose to be: kind, loving, perceptive, respectful, caring. So you can bet your arse than I can respect you and care for you and for what you think. That doesn't meant that I need to know everything you think. I can love you even when I disagree completely with you.