It was arranged by our families. Or, rather, hers reached out to me because mine were disgruntled over the lack of a wife, and I did not refuse. She is a lovely woman, but we barely knew each other as it was and I have been keeping largely to myself since arriving here, as you know. She is also quite close to my first fiancee, with whom my relationship ended in largely the same way.
It is for the best, though, if a blow to the ego. I would not comfortably be able to be with someone and run the risk of harming them.