Allison/Parrish
Can't be selfish if you have no self, right?
All joking aside, there's nothing at all selfish about just... figuring out what you like. What you don't. Because people can tell you everything until they're blue in the face, but it's not going to mean anything until you know how to process it through your own feelings and perceptions.
Honestly? I've been avoiding doing too much delving. It's not healthy, don't recommend it. But yeah, focusing on work and not having much of a personal life's been what I've been doing. And trying to help others, of course. But it's been confusing as all hell. I keep lists with a "before" and "after" column. Don't expect everything to line up. Trauma changes you.