Then you'll have to call most of the internet pretentious, and I'm not sure that many people deserve such a distinction.
Some people choose to succeed, some people have everything given to them. Some people don't do anything and nothing comes to them by luck, and so they don't reach their potential. Very few questions are as simple as one answer or the other. Most often they're a combination of choices. Everything has gray area. If you look at it that black and white, you miss a great deal of interesting things in the middle.