We are, it's true. And the help is not a bad thing. Guide people more gently, Sir Beast. One attracts more flies with honey than vinegar. If you lead people subtly, they are far more likely to agree. Hinting to them is better than outright badgering them. Those who are willing will come forward, and in time, the rest will as well. Humans are creatures of habits and social moors. We like to be in a group.