"That would do it, trying to explain more." Iomhar nods. "Especially if you've not really had the chance to speak about it casually. I'd see it throw a person for a loop." He's looking worried still, but nodding that Tony should head along with him to the kitchen.
"Seems like you're making the attempt, which I appreciate, but you aren't obligated if it's hard for you. If you'd like to talk to me about the rest of that, I'm here for it too. Some things ARE harder than others, I ken that well enough, but if it WOULD help and you need to talk to someone who's found himself in similar... And I can see how the rest might be...concerning."