>>It's not. And that brings me to >Thirdly. While you didn't intend for it to happen, it still did. >>You still put him in that place, though you didn't mean to, and it wan't at all something you said directly. >>The brain is strange that way with anyone, but especially a damaged boy. >>The only thing to do now, though, is to apologize. Explain you did not mean to hurt him but for god's sake don't go on about intent or how he shouldn't be hurt by anything you said or...you get the idea. >Then you simply wait and see what comes of it >>And are patient and try not to force a thing. >>He is the victim, whether you meant it or not, so it is up to... >>It's like stepping on someone's foot in a crowd. Even though you did not mean to do it, someone's foot's still been stepped on, you know?