I never said it's not important, but it's not the cause; it's the effect.
Facts are never unhelpful. If you can't figure out the facts, then what are you basing your decisions on?
I'm basing it on plenty of relationships of royal families, Muslim families, Hindu families, even strict Catholics and Anglicans. The Church of England has still not recognized divorce and neither has the Catholic Church. Muslims and Hindus don't allow divorce. Most European countries did not legalize civil divorce until the last decade. This doesn't even take into consideration the social pressure. No, I'd say that most of those couples can't/couldn't get divorced. None of those had divorce, separation, open relationship or counseling. They are not the disaster you think.
I think you are once again letting your own history colour the meaning of words. It's hard to discuss anything when you only see things based on your past experience and do not accept that your situation might be a deviation of statistics.