If you thought it was about passion, why would you marry me after 10 minutes? There's no time for desperate in 10 minutes.
That sounds much like a romance novel and not real life. Most relationships do start with attractions and lust, then you go through a period of adjustment and then settle into content love. It is why co-abitating people are more likely to separate. They live together and have to deal with the routine and the diminishing passion without the bond of the marriage that forces them to think about leaving each other.
I do understand that most people dream of the romance novel, but if very few, if any, experience it, maybe it's rather unrealistic. I don't see why people who share common interests and happiness together can't learn to love each other. It might not be flashy or all consuming, but it's a lot more lasting and deep.