The First Order? It sounds a lot like the Empire from what you've told me and from what I've heard others say. It certainly doesn't sound like things went well after Endor.
That's very different. Did your son fall to the Dark Side? I mean that's what it sounds like. That must have been very painful for you. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I'm also sorry I left you....or my other self left you. I can't speak for why he did what he did but I'm sorry.