Pondering for the zillionth time the intended-to-be inspiring Great Love of Severus for Lily, I finally hit upon what bothers me so deeply about the prospect that he spent his entire life in Eternal Love of Lily to the exclusion of all other loves: It's not so much the idea of exclusive and undying devotion, itself, although the idea of having only One Great Love in one's life is probably more romantic than realistic in terms of how life plays itself out, as well as in terms of standards of mental and emotional health. Still, widows and widowers do find themselves content with the memory of a happy marriage, so it happens.
That doesn't bother me. What has been bothering me about Severus and Lily finally articulated itself in a single, simple question:
HOW COULD HE STILL LOVE HER AFTER WHAT SHE DID TO HIM?She cut him off. She refused to accept his apology. She refused to consider that the circumstances under which he shouted the offending word might possibly be a mitigating factor in judging his "culpability." As far as we know, Severus and Lily never spoke again, let alone reconciled, after his apology was rejected by Lily.
And many in the broader Harry Potter fandom nod their heads, pseudo-sagely, and say, aha, yes, rightly so, because calling someone a "Mudblood" is the Unpardonable Sin, and anti-Muggle prejudice is the Unpardonable Sin.
Never mind that Severus himself had been the subject of an appalling degree of prejudice, from James and Company, and apparently other students, for the past five years. Never mind that Severus shouted his epithet out of humiliation and rage and a less than clear mind in the midst of being horribly ABUSED by James and Company. Never mind that when he did lash out, it was in self-defense and retaliation for abuses initiated by James and Company. That he was being tormented is of no import to these people: Nope, they say, Severus got what he deserved. In fact, he was lucky that Lily had bothered to put up with him for so long, because Severus Snape, in using the word "Mudblood" and in associating with an organization that espoused anti-Muggle prejudice, was a
racist. And racism, in this view, is the card that trumps all other considerations.
Is that so?
Should anti-Muggle prejudice be equated with racism? Here are a few thoughts on why I think it should not be.
( Continue reading behind the cut )ETA: I continue this discussion in Still Further Thoughts on Prejudice in the Potterverse and Snape's Worst Memory. That post analyzes, in detail, my view of the ethics in the situation of Snape's Worst Memory, and also makes brief observations on Muggleborn prejudice and on using the term "racism" in discussion.