It's pretty de rigeur in my experience in comics. People always hate the person they loved who betrayed them more than the stranger who wanted to hurt them. Hence, blaming superheroes for Stamford rather than the supervillain who deliberately ran to the school to take out kids. And remember, this is years later, Carol's pretty much forgiven/gotten over the previous trauma.
There was the arc where Kang conquers earth with his son named Marcus. Carol had serious squick but she also forgave him for who he looked like.