Re: Sam A/Penny R
I think only you decide what your standards are. I get that sounds stupid and simple, but I don't think other people decide that for you.
Sometimes people don't want to be helped. Sometimes people people are too strong for that, or they need to do it themselves, or it makes them feel worse, yeah? And it's not fair to them for you to be messed up with them about it, if that's what they need. It isn't personal, yeah? I grew up in a family full of boys, in a barrio, with some rough shit. My rents sold kids, me too, I guess, and made the others do stuff they didn't want, but we're proud and stubborn, and we don't want help neither. It's like we're weak if we ask, like we feel that way, like we're being pussies. Cris is even stronger and more stubborn than us. You got to just let him be, and wait for him to ask, even if it's hard.
And you need to help YOU. You focus too hard on other people, and you can't do anything for other people if you're not doing for yourself. You just take it personal and hurt, and it just gets worse and you get more hurt.