Better to become a grandparent I suppose, than the alternative. He scowls because he doesn't like me. He blames me for my mother's death.
I suppose humans just have a way of overpowering everything. Some elves have really horrible ears. The points tend to make them larger already and if they are cursed with ears that stick out... well it's rather unfortunate. And their ears are also the source of ridicule by humans. They call the elves "knife-ears". It's considered quite an insult.
So if you weren't flattering just what were you doing?