However, the people who actively dislike OTW, seem to not want to discuss it--or at least, not with people who disagree.
Well, I just don't see the point of discussing it - especially not as discussion of how you dislike OTW means people who love OTW will show up and tell you you're wrong to dislike OTW. There doesn't seem to be any capacity in pro-OTWers for accepting that, yeah, there are a number of fans out there who dislike OTW, for a variety of reasons, and who aren't going to have their minds changed by OTW fans showing up and explaining to us that we're totally wrong.
I mean, the strategy of "Your wrongness, let us show you it" does not work for changing people's minds about who's the OTP in Star Trek, or is Spike a psycho, or whether House is in love with Wilson, so why do so many OTWers suppose it will work with the One True Wank?