Oh god, the gender roles. And the level of fucked-up they take on in this context, how they're conflated with violence and it's seriously brilliant.
SO UNHEALTHY YES. Which is why it's awesome and creepy -- just seeing how much of herself she gives over to him. It's romantic, in a warped way. And, you know, just plain warped. Which for these two? Is a good thing. Such a good thing.